Best Wedding Advice I Ever Received

Here's something I wrote a while back for Associated Content. In light of the fact that I am now officiating weddings, it seems very fitting to include this article in my blog:


The Best Wedding Advice I Ever Received


Second only to the birth of our children, our wedding day is considered by most of us to be the most important day of our lives. And yet, how often do brides and grooms too for that matter, confess that their wedding

 

  day was a blur that they barely remember? Or worse yet, that their wedding day was a day to forget and filled with one blundering disaster after another?

We've all heard enough wedding horror stories to suspect that it may be the norm. But how on earth can you rise above the wedding madness to ensure that your wedding day is a day that you can actually enjoy and remember with a happy heart?

Here's the secret that brought me to my senses. It was good advice 25 years ago and it's sound advice today. Do yourself a favor and repeat it daily to yourself for days, even weeks before your wedding day. Heck, memorize it if you can.

Remember that at the end of the day, it isn't about how fabulous your hair was or how shapely you looked in your gown. It isn't about how lovely the flowers were, (or if they even arrived at all). It isn't how the adorable little flower girl stole a little bit of your glory (as kids at weddings often do) or that your mother-in-law wore black. What it is about is how you are now bonded, hopefully for life, with your most favorite human being on the planet. That is the focus, and all that other stuff is fluff. It seems so obvious a truth, and yet it's an almost completely overlooked aspect of the day.

If you focus on all those other aspects, then you will not enjoy your wedding day, guaranteed, because something will inevitably go wrong. More importantly, if those other aspects are your focus, it may be a red flag that you are getting married for all the wrong reasons. And if that's the case, it isn't just your wedding day that's in trouble.


It's fine, even advisable, to have an organized plan in place to ensure that your guests have a good time. But as things go wrong in the course of the day, and they probably will, just remember what the focus of the

 

  truly day is. It will help keep the trivial aspects in their proper perspective so that you are free to experience the real beauty and magic of the day.

Good luck!